What To Do If You Hate Your Engagement Ring
Right guy, wrong ring.
22 February 2017
Editor
He finally did it. He finally got down on one knee and asked you to marry him. And you couldn't be happier to accept the proposal! However, once the high of the proposal wears off, you take a closer look at the ring you realise... oops, this ain't gonna work. A tricky situation to be in, but it happens!
Of course, an engagement is about love and not jewellery. Oh, who are we kidding? It is totally about the jewellery. How can you wear a ring you hate on a daily basis?
Here's what to do if you hate your engagement ring.
1. RELAX
Even though your first instinct may be to react like the woman in the picture below, DON'T. Many women jump to the inane conclusion that if he couldn't pick a ring you like that he does not know you or that it is a bad omen. Taste is SO individual and him getting a ring you don't like is not an indication of anything except that his taste in jewellery is not the same as yours.
So, calm down.
2. Give it a week or two
Do not tell him right away that you hate it - give it a week or two and see if the ring grows on you. Enjoy the feeling of being engaged. If you still don't like then ring, then move on to step 3.
3. Find out where he's coming from
Find out what made him choose the ring that he chose. Maybe there is a story behind it and maybe that story will change your mind about the ring.
If that is the case, then problem solved. If not, move on to step 4.
4. See if you can change the existing ring.
If you have given yourself a few days to like the ring, but it hasn't happened - you need to move on getting a ring that you like. Make sure you know exactly what it is that makes you dislike the ring. Telling your fiancé that the colour of the band won't match your skin tone is probably an easier blow for him to take than telling him that you hate the ring.
Also - see if your issue with the ring has got to do with the setting or something that can be easily changed. However, if you have a problem with the size of the rock or the price, move on to step 5.
5. Tell your fiancé...CALMLY
If all else fails, you should talk to your fiancé about the ring calmly. Getting angry/crying is not going to help the situation. Remember, picking out the ring must have been an emotional experience for him, so you should tread lightly.
Tell him that you are so excited to be getting married to him, but the ring is just not right for you because of XYZ. Make sure the experience for the two of you is positive - maybe even include him in the redesigning process.
Also, we recommend giving "subtle" hints before the wedding for the wedding band. You know what they say - prevention is better than cure.
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